Weddings are one of life’s biggest celebrations – but they can also come with a big price tag. One of the first questions many couples ask is: who actually pays for the wedding in the UK?
Traditionally, there were clear rules about who funded different parts of the day, but times have changed. Today, every couple (and every family) approaches costs differently. What matters most is finding an arrangement that feels fair, realistic, and comfortable for everyone involved.
Traditional Wedding Etiquette: Who Paid for What?
Historically, wedding costs were divided like this:
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Bride’s family – the wedding dress, ceremony, reception, flowers, photography, and invitations.
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Groom’s family – the marriage licence and often the bar or honeymoon.
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The groom – typically bought the engagement ring, wedding bands, and sometimes the bouquet.
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The bride – gave gifts to her bridesmaids.
While these traditions shaped wedding etiquette for decades, few couples follow them strictly today.
The Modern Approach to Wedding Costs in 2025
These days, weddings are often funded more flexibly, with arrangements tailored to the couple and their families. Common approaches include:
1. Couple-Funded Weddings
Many couples now choose to pay for the majority – or even the entire wedding – themselves. This gives them more freedom to plan the day exactly how they want.
2. Shared Contributions
Families may each contribute a set amount, regardless of who covers which elements. This is one of the most popular modern approaches in the UK.
3. Itemised Sharing
Some families prefer to split costs by responsibility – for example, one side covers catering while the other funds décor or entertainment.
At The Meadow Barn, we see every type of arrangement. Some couples treat their wedding as a gift to themselves, while others are supported by generous family contributions. The beauty of modern weddings is that there’s no single “right way.”
Thinking about costs? Try our Wedding Cost Calculator to see how different budget splits could work for your day.
Key Considerations When Deciding Who Pays
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Have Open Conversations – Money can be tricky to talk about, but it’s essential to discuss contributions with both families early in the planning process.
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Set a Realistic Budget – Decide what matters most to you (venue, food, entertainment, photography) and prioritise spending accordingly.
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Stay Flexible – Traditions can guide you, but the “right way” is the one that works for your situation and relationships.
Pro tip: Download our free Wedding Brochure to see packages and options that can help shape your budget.
FAQs About Who Pays for a Wedding in the UK
Do parents still pay for weddings in the UK?
Sometimes – but not always. While parents often contribute, many modern couples either share costs with their families or fund the day themselves.
Sometimes – but not always. While parents often contribute, many modern couples either share costs with their families or fund the day themselves.
What if one family can give more than the other?
There’s no fixed rule. Many couples accept different contribution levels, focusing on what feels fair rather than strictly equal.
There’s no fixed rule. Many couples accept different contribution levels, focusing on what feels fair rather than strictly equal.
How do we talk about money with our families?
Have the conversation early, set expectations clearly, and focus on creating a plan that avoids stress closer to the big day.
Have the conversation early, set expectations clearly, and focus on creating a plan that avoids stress closer to the big day.
Final Thoughts
There’s no one-size-fits-all answer to who pays for a wedding. Traditions can be a starting point, but modern weddings are about flexibility and fairness. Whether costs are shared equally, divided by items, or covered entirely by the couple, the most important thing is that everyone feels comfortable with the arrangement – leaving you free to focus on what really matters: celebrating love.
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